Is it normal to kiss your mum on the lips

Now my oldest son is 8 and being really close to him does make me a bit uncomfortable. I have to honor those feelings and give him independence. Parenting is so hard — especially when you take the time to contemplate and considering WHY you do things the way you do them. We were all raised in perfectly imperfect families, and there is always room for us to grow. Thanks Katie for this conversation. We are raising the adults of tomorrow. My mother in law kissed my 3 month old son on the lips, I did not confront her.

Next day we got with him in the hospital with severe respiratory infection. A demonstration of possession. Let them determine their comfort level re squeezes and kisses. And the germ thing is really not to be discounted, especially with infants.

We have to realize there are many different cultures we live in. What is acceptable to you may not be acceptable to me, to each his own, however my concern is that adults put their lips in various places on the human anatomy, and I am speaking frank here. So when parents do things like that they need to be mindful when thinking of kissing children on the lips. Some adults carry the herpes simplex virus unaware, someone commenting earlier said the child had respiratory issues so we need to think practically.

In my culture few parents kiss babies on their lips but as the child gets older, we find its inappropiate. Katie's Blog. About Katie:. As the Senior Managing Editor at Care. I hope that your day is filled with all the good emotions today. Sone finally defined common sense to the issue of lip kissing children or toddlers or babies.

Some parents do not have enough respect for their own children to withdraw in Oder to develop dignity instead of desire and passion. The population explosion personifies HUMAN submission, not the growth of healthy self willed resistance. The only comment here with some real understanding. My son is 14 and we still kiss on the lips.

It is not an intimate kiss but a short pucker smack. When i drop his lunch off at school, he is not ashamed.. When the time comes and he feels awkward.. I have a mother-in-law who thinks it is wrong and i told her only a dirty mind thinks is it perverted lol!

Some people.. Totally agree! My nephews are approaching 6 and 8, and they still give kisses when they leave the house. He is happy with it. He is four and I never liked to kiss him on his cheeks. As the child is growing up, the child has to grow learn it he right boundaries in life to develop into a healthy adult. He is four and I never liked to kiss him on his lips. As the child is growing up, the child has to grow — learn the right boundaries in life to develop into a healthy adult.

I have 12 year old and 13 year old daughters. I grew up in a kissing and hugging family. I was the private one and the one to push away alot. So a few years back I stopped kissing my girls on the lips when one of my girls seemed uncomfortable.

The reason for both was that the other was my step daughter whom i have raised since she was 6 months old. It seemed inappropriate. Oddly enough she kept up that behavior, but I stopped it.

Then she started to try and act more like mom grown flirting towards me. It was awkward and made me feel even more withdrawn. Until I overheard how boy crazy they were and one had kissed a boy but didnt know if she wanted to again. So, I went down stairs and found my wedding band I wore with my daughters wife and found a ring that my wife told me I could scrap because it was from my other daughters dad. I went up to there room, grabbing my wife along the way because she had also been worried about the boy craziness.

I explained that it is important we are honest with eachother and that we promise honesty and virtue to our family. I gave them the rings and told them what they had been and how we sometimes get second chances to make things special again, if we are honest. Then I gave them each a smooch on the lips in front of mom.

All 3 of my girls cried. My oldest said she kissed a boy 1 year ago and it was why she stopped kissing me and was happy I kissed her. My step daughter said she thought I was mad at her when I stopped and had been trying to kiss me since hence the strange behavior and only started thinking about boys cuz she missed goodnight kisses.

I started crying. They both give me a kiss on the lips everytime now b4 bed. I went downstairs and my wife of 12 years told me how the reason she wont french kiss is because her father was older and developed some mental issues and french kissed her from age 8 to I said i wished I had known?

I would never have kept asking. We do that now too much for me , her idea. I told her that the reason I was the closed off one in my family was that when I was 8 I had a 13 year old girl babysitter that would perform sex acts and french kissing with me. But that it was the fact we only ever really have pecks on the lips with each other even during………was making it wierd to give the same kisses to the girls.

I almost lost 2 little ones to lies. A good father willing and wanting to protect his daughters might just give his wife, the father she lacked or make up for the boys that stole kisses from her. He might also fill a void or fix a crack that his daughters have. In doing so we all found out not speaking the truth hurt us most. Confusion about kissing cant exist in an open environment. To all of you beautiful moms I hope you sort through the hurts that would take away a kiss from there sons.

And to all the ladies hurting like my oldest and my wife that had something taken and felt like they could not have it back. I am sorry you hurt In secret have faith that a real father wants to save girls from the stupid and mean boys we once were or from the hurting broken fathers you could have had. Moms, men love you but sometimes you might have to share first and realize broken men are not made by other men. They are made from women. All we really want is a woman to hold us close and care for our wounds.

Just like women need someone to make them feel special and cared for and protected. We need to be challenged to change the hurts that will hurt our children.

Moms and Dads need to take on those roles with each other in this world before we are really ready to make good choices for our kids. Dont confuse kissing with sex and intimacy with sex and adults. Intimacy is not just talking about bad things that happened to you. Intimacy was what the for of us had that day crying. A sense that we all needed to expose our true self to change our future. Many people have said this helped them to hear so please let me know if it helps or helps others.

My wife and I are writing a book now. She will edit. Dont worry. What caring parents. So when do you stop? Oh you mean when it gets to the point that kissing your mid teenage maybe adult child is going to be misnterpreted or interpreted correctly as you having romantic, perhaps sexual relations by a third party? I feel like it is a super selfish thing that only the adult can interpret when kissing the child.

Let the other side be heard. The lip kissers seem to present the ever dominate holier than thou attitudes rather then, step back with the desires to prove flesh more provident than ethics and dignity. Even when tongue touching and pushing the 30 second kiss…they are babies and toddlers…not adults and when they get older all they will recall is a taste of egg whites and not remember the origin.

I grew up in a huggy, chic-kissing family. It was awkward for the African side of the family when l kissed my dad on the cheek, but my Irish family members are BIG lip kissers. And its normal. Only in the US is it even a discussion. My 5 year old son is a big lip kisser. But kissing on the lips is not the best idea to express parental love. When you kiss a child on the lips, you show them that their body border is open and that someone can intrude into their territory with no problem.

This also includes tight swaddling, force-feeding, and aggressive tickling. Doctors, and especially dentists, warn that there are a huge number of microbes in our mouths that may not infect adults, but can be transmitted to children and harm them greatly.

And since the child has a weaker immune system, Charlotte Reznick clarifies , some dangerous infections can enter their body through saliva.